I googled "Single Mom by Choice, Boise Idaho" last night, and a blog by a SMBC who lives in Boise came up - her posts were the first 8 on the google list. I decided to check it out - maybe she ran a SMBC group from there or had a link. In Portland there was a SMBC group where I occasionally attended events. I love having the support from other moms who were in the trenches - but all of these moms had perfect children who were never sick. This mom whose blog I read has been put through the ringer, her oldest daughter almost died when she was 1 from a systemic infection, her second child was born 90% deaf. As I perused her blog I felt such a strong connection to this mom, like we probably would really "get" each other. I did something I never do - I reached out to her on Facebook. I am hoping that she responds to me.
I read this mom's posts and I realized that I was putting off having another child because I was scared that something else would happen with Maggie. I realized that having another child is a gift to Maggie, a gift to myself. I will never be rich, we will probably never go on extravagant vacations, cruises outside the country. Maybe, we will just be happy - have adventures, road trips to see family.
